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30 Days of Kink – Day 29 – That’s Mistress to you.

3 Sep

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)?  What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

I’ve never had a title that’s stuck. Master calls me his Slut, which I love, especially when it evolves into ‘Dirty lil Slut’.

I love the use of titles. It creates a hierarchy; a pecking order. Be able to call Master ‘Master, send a shiver through me every time I use it. Especially in general conversation because I know it presses his buttons & being able to call him Master, reminds me that he is in charge of my actions & he makes my choices.

On the flip side, when I’m with a submissive I like to be called Mistress. I guess it’s a way of asserting control. Reminding the sub who is in charge & who they are serving, but this side of me comes out very rarely… I’m a submissive at heart!

30 Days of Kink – Day 28 – BDSM Attire

2 Sep

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to you?

I dress as I would for vanilla sex, unless Master has told me to wear something in particular. I love dressing up for sex. It makes me feel gorgeous, strangely this only happens in underwear & I love the way the men react. Seems to make them even more determined to ruin me!

Depending on my mood & my partner, depends on what type of underwear I wear. I can do sexy & sultry if I’m feeling particularly dominant, or innocent & sweet when I want to be submissive.

30 Days of Kink- Day 27 – Non-kink activities

1 Sep

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

To  be totally honest… no! I can’t see a way you could make knitting kinky, or bring BDSM into Bellydance, but maybe that’s just me being unimaginative!

Next question!

30 Days of Kink – Day 26 – Online play

30 Aug

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

Well this is how I met and interact with Master, & it suits me fine! I’m generally quite an anti-social person, so being able to communicate without having to be face-to-face, is always good!

I’ve always enjoyed online play, even vanilla. It seems to hold an element of restraint. You can see them, speak too them, hear them… but you can’t touch.

I don’t really have much so say on this matter, so let me know your opinion of online play?

20 Days of Kink – Day 25 – Honesty

28 Aug

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

I’m generally a very open & honest person, but when it comes to my kinky side, I feel I have to keep this hidden. In today’s society, mainly to non-fetishists, my sexual preferences & experiences would make me known as a ‘slut’.

This is also probably one of the only secret’s I have. It’s nice to keep something to yourself once in a while. Something to smile about while you’re at work, because no one could possibly guess what you’re thinking, or what you did last night!

30 Days of Kink – Day 24 – Tick Boxes

27 Aug

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?


  • Kind
  • Loving
  • Compassionate
  • Understanding
  • Not too tall
  • Dominant (outside the bedroom too)
  • Rugged
  • Tattooed
  • Manly
  • Blue/Green eyes
  • Strong (mentally & physically)
  • Affectionate
  • Sexual
  • Erotic
  • He must also know how to take a woman!
  • Kind
  • Affectionate
  • Cuddly
  • Blonde
  • Good figure
  • Taller than me
  • Sexual
  • Capable
  • Innocent
  • Fun
  • Loving
Is that really too much to ask?! 😉

30 Days of Kink – Day 23 – Growing

26 Aug

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

I’ve always been very open minded, but I guess it’s opened my mind up that little bit more. I’m more willing to try things I wouldn’t have a few years back.

I never liked being controlled by a man, I found it degrading and disrespectful, but now I revel in it. The control in a BDSM relationship is completely different. It’s not abusive mentally or physically; and most importantly it’s a desired kink of control. I guess you could describe it as loving!

Also I never though I would settle down. I didn’t like the idea of marriage and children, but having a Master makes me feel warn and happy. It’s something I could see myself doing for the rest of time. It’s open and honest. I’d like to maybe settle down one day in a poly household & secretly I dream of being collared… not white wedding for me!